A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. Proverbs 27:15
I don’t know if you’ll find a woman who truly loves this verse. It brings out probably one of the biggest faults of our gender. We’ve been divinely relegated as “second-in-command” to our husbands, and sometimes this produces a feeling of being out of control. This out-of-control feeling can bring out the nagging in the first, second, and third degrees.
The scary part of this “continual dropping” is that we often don’t know we’re doing it. Sometimes it takes a good set-down from our husbands, mothers, or someone close to us to make us realize how far down the whining road we’ve gone.
We all have our little (or big) items that we complain about, mainly to our husbands. In the Bible, we are commanded to show respect and honor to our men.
Have you ever thought about how hard it is to whine in a respectful voice? It’s nigh impossible.
If some of you are like me, you’re probably thinking “but I’m not a whiner”. Sometimes we truly have no idea how we sound until we hear it through another person’s ears. I recently had to repent of some of the things I’d been complaining about. To me, I didn’t feel it was complaining……but to my husband it said so much more than I ever meant for it to.
So what is the true meaning behind my whiny voice and nagging attitude?
What am I really saying when I complain?
- I am not a joy-filled person.
- I do not like the life God has chosen for me.
- I cannot trust that God knows what is best for my life and my heart.
- I do not even like myself.
To my husband it says:
- You are not to be trusted in matters spiritual, physical, or financial.
- You have failed in providing the best path for our family – whether it be where we live, how we live, or what we live on.
- I need more than you and the kids to make me happy.
- You’re not as good as some other men.
- I am not happy with our life and it is your fault.
To my children it says:
- I do not like being your mother.
- You make me unhappy.
- You irritate me.
- My attitude is all your problem, not mine.
Sometimes you have absolutely no idea of the meaning behind your words, until you’re forced to listen to them yourself.
After realizing the message my complaining was giving, I had to think about what I could be saying if only positive, encouraging words left my mouth. Just think of the potential we have to make our homes the happiest place on earth . . . with only our words as the building blocks!
We could be saying:
- I love the Lord with all my heart.
- I am content and happy with the way God made me to be from the moment I was conceived.
- My husband is the light of my life and, next to Christ, the best thing that’s happened to me.
- I can rest contentedly, knowing that my husband is well able to handle all the spiritual and financial decisions for our little family. God has better equipped him to make those decisions than He did me.
- You, my children, are the apple of my eye and I love spending time with you!
- I love this life God has chosen for me and embrace the joys as well as the sorrows.
Most importantly . . .
My attitude is not dependent upon my circumstances . . .
instead I view it as a challenge to change my circumstances by my attitude.
Linking to some of these blogs.